Last night

I met up with a friend last evening after a long time. He’s an ex-colleague and a great friend. Lets call him P.

He has helped me a lot with PC, phone and other gadget problems. If you knew him, you would undoubtedly ask if he was gay due to his feminine side coming out a bit more than others but he’s not even close to it. :) He and I have gone lingerie shopping too, for me that is…. We would discuss about bras in the lingerie section of clothing stores and he would ask me what ever questions he had and he would tell me thinks he knew. In case you're wondering, NO I never tried on any and showed him to see what he thought! :)

We used to go out for occasional meetups and have Coronas or Margaritas and chit chat away. He can talk and talk for hours, where he would start with one topic and go all around the world and then forget what he was talking about in the first place.

He said that he doesn’t have a lot of close friends. It could be that he hasn’t made the effort to keep in touch but he once had thought about it and felt really sad. He really likes me and we click well. So we hang out. He has a very possessive wife and she doesn’t like his friends much but surprisingly she’s ok with him hanging out with me. Phew!

So when I asked him if he was free to meet up and catch up on things, he immediately said ‘yes yes yes’ and we met within a timespan on 30 mins and we were in 2 different locations with quite a distance in between.

He then told me that he’s going to make an effort for the people he really cares about. He has no problem is telling me his secrets and in fact I know way too many personal things about him. It amazes me as to how much he trusts me and tells me things coz he knows I won’t repeat them to anyone. It touched me too.

Then when I told him what my life was like, we went down his memory lane and he related so many stories and it felt really really really good.

There were some things he said which lingers on in my mind…

• Absence makes the heart grow fonder. For some - Out of sight, out of mind. (strange enough, when I put the first part as a status update, a girl replied saying the second part). :)
• Feelings like love and other emotions/affections makes you a prisoner. That’s why it gets difficult at times. That’s what binds you to what you’re feeling and it’s never easy to shake it off. How true, I thought.
• You’ll always give some things up for someone who means a lot to you…
• It’s always best to go for someone who loves you more than someone who you love coz you always learn to love them back. When you see and realize what they feel for you, it always makes such a huge inexplicable difference.

And so much more….

Anyhoo, it was one of those calm nights with a good friend where we never ran out of topics to talk about…..

I just hope that all his future work end up being really successful and that he gets what he deserves for the goodness he has in him. No one is perfect and he has his faults. But who are we to judge when we’re not perfect ourselves.

 Cheers to great friends!