Girl time

3 of my chick friends and I met up on Friday for a chilled out night at one of their places.

Friends will be R, A & M.

We met at M's place as her hubby had gone out of town and had the whole place to herself. I had never gone there before and so we bought stuff and went straight after work.

M's place is simply amazing. While walking through and checking the place out, I suddenly had this feeling like I wanted to get my own place and do the deco and maintain it.... Suddenly I wanted to be a woman who cleans and maintains a nice place and for a moment I was wondering how much I'm actually changing... Coz project room is happening (it's all done except I don't have sufficient funds to buy the fancy stuff) and I'm actually doing things around the house too and mum is enjoying it and what I didn't think of before and scares me is the fact that she's now thinking to herself that I'm actually ready to settle down and it's freakkkyyyy!!!

I suddenly have the urge to spend more time in the kitchen and try my hand at new things... There's a reason why I don't cook much.. or hardly.. I used to cook with my dad on weekends coz that's the time we were both free and he could get me to do things... When he was gone.... I couldn't stand the thought of cooking... it felt unbearably sad... but over the years.... though I've left it that way, now I realise it's gotten a bit easier.. and I find myself browsing recipes....cookery books and wanting to try new things.... provided time permits.. so lets see how it goes..

Anyhoo, it was a fun girls night and I had to leave early as the brother had gone to a party and needed a ride home and I had to drop some of his friends too and my mother was all alone since we were both out, so we had to rush back home as soon as we could.

But we had so much to talk and M said she had once been part of producing a documentary on prostitution and she was telling us so many stories on how women fall into this trade...

One story that really upset me is how a guy had got selected to Uni in Colombo and was from a poor family. He had got his sister down and started using her by letting his friends use her for money and that's how he made his way through Uni and got a good job. So once the sister was used the first time, she had said that she lost her dignity and value and that she continued to do it to support her brother who has now moved away and is living a good life and she continues to sell herself to make money and live life... I got goosebumps and was all teary eyed when I heard this. On one side, yes I understand that if people face really desperate moments, they may look at options like this.. But your own family doing this to you is just unbearable...

There were other women who did it behind the backs of their husbands just so the family - parents and their kids could have regular meals....

These stories really upset me and you know how you feel when you wish you could do something to stop all the suffering but you just can't do it for everyone... there's a limit to what you can do...

I also heard about how one of my friends had a really abusive boyfriend and how much shit she went through...Like even being beaten in public! Thing with girls is, they need to talk things out.. I, however, am not really the 'oh girls you need to listen to my shit' type.. I may talk if I'm high coz at times like that, emotions tend to magnify/amplify till it gets bit easier... but otherwise, I'm not much of a talker of problems. I don't know why and somehow I'm glad I'm like that.... though it may not be healthy all the time..

So then before I left that girly night, R said that M makes the most amazing pork curry ever. I don't eat much meat as I hope to be veg at some point... At home we only have chicken and seafood and that too occasionally. But if I go out, once in a while I would have other meats depending on my mood etc... So M decided to cook for me and invited us on Saturday for lunch, which I went for...

Her yellow rice and pork curry is to die for! It was simply delicious and we all had huge second servings and just sat near the garden afterwards for nearly 2 hrs before we left coz we had all eaten too much.... It was a relaxing girls day and it felt really great.