My day as a bride’s maid

So this dawned last Friday and I must say the wedding was really tiring but loads of fun. Let me type out all the details..:)

The group consisted of 4 best men and 4 Bride’s maids, out of which one bride’s maid was a well known model and T.V person. Anyway, the poruwa ceremony was at 5:18pm at Taj and we were all required to be there by 11am.

So there I was, waiting in the room assigned to us right on time and the only people there were the groom and 2 of the best men. It was fun hanging out with them until the rest of the group came. Then all the drama started.

We had lunch and by 12pm the maids and bride had to have a bath and be ready in towels to get the hair and make-up done. So there we were.. on time.. and a group of about 8 people walked in and this was the troupe that was going to dress us.

We were seated all over the place with just towels wrapped around us and there were 2 high power hair dryers and a straightening iron that were being used at the same time and this troupe managed to blow a fuse and upset the power system and we were stranded for a while as the hair dressers couldn’t use the hair dryers for blow-drying.

Imagine all sorts of electricians walking into a room full of people with 5 women in towels and others just trying to figure out what to do and a few others applying make-up on us. Those electricians must’ve had their joy for the day!They were smiling a lot and giving us weird looks!

So then one by one we started running to the men’s changing room to use their power outlets for hair blow-drying purposes. We were running up and down from one room to another in our towels first to get our hair done and then to get the make-up done.

The colour combination for the maids was pink and brown and it was a lovely dress actually. More like a corset and a long skirt. After we were all dressed the make-up/dressing troupe left and we just checked each other out and to be honest some of us looked pretty bad… like long lost ghosts who just appeared after centuries of rest and then I looked so much darker than I really am!

It was so bad and since we had our own make-up kits, we took off some of the make-up that those people put on us and did our own thing and helped each other out and the group looked stunning..:)

Next came the photography which was so annoying and tiring but fun. The photographer was Ravi and I’m told he’s pretty good.

Now let me tell you about the bestmen. Coincidentally there was a physical match between the maids and the best men and my partner was a bit of a perv! He couldn’t keep still and kept flirting with anything that had life and a skirt! One of the maids was a school girl of 18 who was really innocent and sweet and my partner’s flirty and pushy moves had actually intimidated this poor girl that she stayed away from him and even stayed away from the dance floor as he wouldn’t leave her alone.. sigh.. some men just suck, don’t they?

Anyways, I only had one dance with my partner and I managed to move away to be with a few friends and one of the other best man who happened to be a good friend and I never knew he was in the group.:) that was a nice surprise.

The wedding was fun… only that we kept running up and down while the poruwa ceremony was going on as we forgot to take things like the saree the groom gifts the bride, the parents’ gifts… etc

There was another incident where the guy who does the talking and holds the ceremony took back the saree from the bride to give it to the parents after it was gifted and one of the bra cups of the jacket nearly fell off!!!:) lol

The bride was fun too… she was making faces while on the poruwa and making fun of things with us…:) and the groom is really loads of fun too..:) and the kind of pictures we posed for really made Ravi enjoy it too..:)

But, it was not fun to walk around in heels for a long time.. and it was not fun serving people wedding cake till I thought I might just collapse.. and it was not fun when people kept stepping on my skirt while walking…

But, the cake the couple had ordered for cutting was this yummy-cious chocolate and strawberry cake in three layers… all three layers were cake… and when the couple sat down after everything. all the 4 maids just walked up to the cake and we started to help ourselves… and it was lovely I tell ya! And done by the hotel itself!!:)

So yea, then the night came to an end with a lot of drinking and dancing… and I also ended up losing my gorgeous bouquet of flowers as I left it on a table and some imbecile of a guest had stolen it! Gah!

The dress that we wore is at the bottom.. all done in raw silk but two of the maids (me and another girl) had tiny off-should sleeves on the sides. The colours were the same and eventhough I thought it wouldn’t look good, the dresses were done pretty well and we all looked great..:) I had friends and other random people stopping me to ask who did our dresses coz they looked nice. :) I will try to post pics when I get some good ones and after I download the stuff I got..:)

I know I'm a friendly person and this wedding truly proved it as I'm getting all sorts of FB friend requests and I can't check them to see who it is as FB is blocked in office and internet at home is busted as my bro has messed with some damn virus which just blocks the internet out and we can't use it till the damn pc is formatted!! gah!! annoying!

Sorry it's a long post...and I haven't re-read this to look for mistakes...:S as I've lots of work to do.. sigh

The first time

Last night....was the first time I tried it... I've heard so many people say that it's good.....and then there are those who don't like it.....but I on the other hand had never tried it before...

There they were.. in a fruit shop near my uncle's place...... I told my mum I wanted to try it...and the fruit seller probably saw the enthusiasm in my eyes.....after selecting a good one... he asked me if I would like to have it cut..... and I nodded...

when he finished cutting, he offered me a piece.. I held it and my mum told me how to eat it.... (ok, that's written weird...)

And you know what? I liked it...really liked it.... and that was the first time I had Durian! and that was just last night!

when my mum saw how much I enjoyed eating it, she smiled and said "you know, Durian was your dad's favourite fruit? and now, you're the only one who eats it... you always turn out to be like him..." :)

Shifts

All these days, I've been living through each day.. with so much of emptiness... blocked emotions.... and there are days I can live with it and move by... but there are those days where I feel so trapped.. unable to move.... and I just can't take it...

I was casually asking a friend if I should look into counselling just to talk... and she said my problems were 'way too common'... I don't mean to sound like a child, but it did feel sad to hear that actually.. So sometimes, we deal with different emotions and problems.. but they affect us to some degree and as humans, depending on individual difference, they affect us at different levels.... I know there are lots of people who're actually going through so much worse... but if I still feel helpless and so caught up and unbelievably sad about certain things, what can I do other than to keep trying to move on... Like I've been trying for so long.....

Will my stars ever change to the way my life used to be some time back? Will they ever change for the better and give me what I deserve? I really don't know..... should I even look up to them anymore? I'm not so sure...

Another Lady-licious moment

I have written about Lady-licious here and here.

Mid last week I got a call from this very nice, out-going kind of chick and she asked me if I could talk for a few mins. When I said I was free, she said she was calling from the studio and had some very bad news to tell me and my friends who were part of Ladylious. She said that some batches of photos they took of the winners over a couple of weeks were gone. There goes memories of the Cruella De Ville hair-do!

The explanation was that their computers had got struck by lightning 'unexpectedly' and they didn't have any pics and nothing could be recovered. So she asked if I could talk to the other 3 and decide on a date we were all free and let her know so they could arrange for us to be taken to another salon for a make-over and then take our pictures again! In a way, we were all relieved that the pics haven't come out coz we all looked terrible.. But who knows what the second time would be like...

We haven't decided on a day yet.. and well, I dunno whether we'll be doing it again.. it feels like a waste of time in a way.... but lets see what happens..:)

Oh and I told her to have back-up next time!

Cleaner's block.... and insurance changes

Mandy (car) was insured fully under Ceylinco VIP... but with this whole fiasco taking place and all the problems arising, my mum made sure we didn't take a chance... So I told her the two other choices were SLIC and Janashakthi... and well, I got her to choose coz if I did, and if something went wrong, she wouldn't stop screaming! so yes, I have to take the easy way out sometimes whether I like it or not..

So typical mum, she called up a few relations and decided it was going to be SLIC.. eventhough I heard that Janashakthi service was really good.. but then, I listened to her and we went to SLIC to get the full insurance cover... Man, full insurance is so expensive.. I didn't want the full cover but my mum was adamant I get it... So I did.. and to be honest, I didn't feel too comfortable with the branch I went to, which was in my area. The staff was typical govt style.. older people.. and they took time.. and there were people who had come there with problems and I sure didn't like the way the parties were talking to each other! I just hope nothing goes wrong with Mandy and I never have to face any situations.....



My room is this unbelievable mess.. I keep looking at it and thinking I'll clean it next week but I just never get to it... I don't know why.. it's never been this messy... and I just don't know.. it feels weird... Maybe for avrudu holidays, I'll do a proper clean and get it all spotless and nice....

Random scribbles

I'm not in a happy mood to blog much.. amazing how much this actually eats out of me... but I've decided to do something that might help... so lets see how it goes....

I used to have a bad back problem and it was sort of ok as I took care of it... until I actually neglected and now it hurts again... sometimes I can't sit in one place or even walk coz it hurts unbearably....even sleeping is a problem.... maybe it's rest I need and stress in terms of work and emotions probably aggravates it. I hate the idea of having to check it again by an Orthopedic surgeon as they assign Physiotherapy..... argh!!

Other than that, my friend's wedding is coming up next week..... never did I think being one of the bridesmaids would be this hard! For one thing, I find myself looking very funny in the outfit when I went for the fit-on. But then, it's the friend's wedding and I'll do it... Then I was told I'm required 5 hrs before the wedding to get dressed and for the make-up and blah blah... It's gonna be a drama filled day I'm sure... But the bride is fun so it'll be cool.....

My mum's gone to Anuradhapura with some relations. She left early in the morning and she's returning late night as she 'can't' leave the kids alone! She called so many times... her concerns ranged from having woken up at the right time, to breakfast, to locking doors and etc etc etc...... sweet BUT annoying! We're grownup and we can handle things!!!!!@$#$@$%!@$%

There, now my back is killing me again.... and I have some work to attend to...
See y'all.

Weekendies...

Depressed. Sad.

Saturday morning ENT specialist appointment. I got ear plugs! They're nice and look edible. Very edible....

Saturday evening yoga....

Saturday night chocolate overdose to feel easy.....

Sunday morning yoga......

Now dripping wet from a nice cold shower......chatting with a friend......two depressed souls talking to each other.... isn't that great!

Happy blogging-anniversary RD!

Dearest RD,

Your blog London, Lanka & Drums has always been a favourite of mine... You live like you're married to your blog..:) and it's great to read the different kind of topics you write about and your kids are just great! You never fail to amuse us and I think your writing has become spectacular with time and you have a loyal and excited set of readers.

Thank you for writing.... and it's always been great reading you..:) You were also the one who nominated me one for the Best blog of 2008 award and I was really honoured and touched. You and your blog are loved! :)

Here's to another great year ahead of you.... happy blogging and may you always be around... with us..:)

Cheers and hugs!

Warm regards,
LD..:)

Walk down the broken road

Walking down
The broken road
With trembling hands
And undying fear
Trying to hide
The tears that fall
Looking ahead at the blurry world

The pathway is empty
I wear no shoes
My feet are bruised
The walk in painful
The past haunts me
Doesn’t let me move
I cling onto the present
But I’m losing my grip

I let myself fall
Again and again
I can’t keep fighting
Like this anymore
I give up and turn
To face the other side
It’s dark and sad
And nothing new to me.

That little sibling

I've written about my little brother here and there.... he's unbelievably nice... too good to be true at times.... mummy's little baby boy.. and loved by all aunties who simply wish their sons were like him..BUT, his temper is deadly! and somehow calms down very fast... Doesn't talk much.. always obliging to whatever we say.. and a good sport. Very good in studies.. and I, the big sister, spoils him a lot...:) He's a good 5 yrs younger to me.... which makes him 20 later on this year...

So I was having a msn chat with him last Monday while I was at work and he had returned home from lectures.... and he tells me that someone stole his phone in the bus.. He was angry but knew that nothing could be done so he was calm after a little while...

Me being the one who spoils him most decided I'll get him a new better phone (eventhough I'm broke beyond measure and didn't quite know what I'll spend to get it). Then he politely says that he doesn't want a good one and instead to buy him a really old one with the green display which is quite cheap so that he doesn't have to take care of it.. and gives me a big grin!

I felt so sad when he said this and assured him that we'll get a better one.... He got annoyed at this and was adamant that I get him a cheap one and finally said "You seem to be turning into your mother!" and THIS made me stop.... and stare at the screen... and realised... this baby brother ACTUALLY knows how to shut me up! and then he smiled a wide smile and said he was going off to sleep.

No matter how much we used to fight.. and still do verbally.... I just adore him!:)

Apart from that, today's reading on my desk thingy by Brahma Kumaris says something very interesting...

"It is more dangerous to weep inside your mind than to weep in the open. The open tears can be easily wiped away, but the secret tears create scars"

How true...... how very true......

Lady-licious moments

This is the second part of the post below.


-We were supposed to be picked by a Limo but unfortunately it had been reserved by someone else so we were sent an Audi which was ok I’d say...

-First stop was at photography studio where they took our pics before the make-over was done.

-All the 4 ladies were taken to one of the exclusively nice salons… The place looked lovely...but the experience...wasn’t the same. Service was good.. people were nice... BUT, I didn’t think a complete make-over which was a hair-do and make-up to suit the outfit we were wearing would make me look like a ghost that appeared from the 15th century! For some others, I would’ve looked like a freaking corpse!

- For those of you who don’t know, I have dark skin complexion... and there’s a particular range of foundation and concealing that can be used on dark skin. I’m not sure whether the make-up artist wasn’t aware of it, or whether they didn’t have much experience in working on dark skin, or whether the whole idea was to make us look drastically different. Either way, non of us were happy the way we looked after the make-over.. and when one person looked at the other and realized that all looked funny, weird and scary, we were all calm..:) Women, I tell ya!

-At one point, my hair looked like that woman’s hair-do in the movie 101 Dalmations – Cruela De Ville! Argh! When this was done and I put my glasses on to see how my head of hair looked, I almost fell off my chair! I told the hair-dressers not to move and to flatten the damn thing coz there’s no way in hell I was going to walk into a 5 Star hotel looking like that. This made the hair-dressers break into a fit of laughter and then unwilling flattened the freaky hair-do.

-There was a friend who had long curly hair and they put it all up in this funny way where it looked like she had a beehive on the head about to fall over her forehead!

-So then we were taken for photographs after the make over and then taken for a great a fun dinner...followed by Karaoke.

-As we were dropped for dinner, we all scurried into the wash room to wipe off the make-up and let down our hair...While my friend who won this competition and I were wiping out faces with tissues, we noticed that there were other women walking into the washroom and my friend whispers into my ear “LD, I hope these women don’t think we’re hookers!” and we both had a good laugh about it...

-So then came dinner….. which was awesome...Italian menu and red wine...a nice way to end the night...

-Then spent a little while at the Karaoke bar and we headed home around 1am.

-Thank heavens my mum was asleep by the time I got home...or else it would’ve been nightmare number two if she saw me!

-It was one hell of an experience.. looking back it’s fun….. and I’m waiting to see how the pics turned out... then again, I’m not so sure I want to see them!

That was lady-licious night!

Lady-licious

This is a radio competition..... one person who registers is picked and if this person manages to answer all questions of the quiz that she has to take, she wins these :

- She gets to take out 3 girlfriends with her.
- They will be picked in a limo/Audi from what I'm told.
- All will be pampered and given a make-over at one of the most exclusive salons here.
- Then all are taken for photographs.
- After this all are treated to dinner at Hilton.
- Then given Stella (Hilton Karaoke Lounge) to the winners to sing and scream as they please...:)

So a girl-friend calls me around 10pm last night saying she won it and she wants to take me with her as I've been a good friend and helped her with stuff and this is the least she can do in return!!! Can you believe it? I'm just so thrilled!!!!!!!!!!! and so excited!!!!!!!!! :)

I think it is your wishes that make me feel better..:) all those who read me and wish me well..:) thanks so much.. I'm really excited and I can't wait!!!!

Y-day, I had this spontaneous arrangement with two good friends. I took half the day off, and so did the friends... and we just hung out... bugged eachother.. and talked.... It was full of pizza, Elephant House hotdogs, iced coffee, double chocolate lattes, pecan brownies with a layer of marshmellow.....and then a lovely walk in the evening beach.... Truly felt nice...:)

A lovely surprise

Today had a great start to the day. A bunch of friends that I so totally adore had planned to pay me a surprise visit to office early in the morning. Two of them told me that they would come last evening to see me but they didn’t. So I let it pass and waited.. to see a bunch of them turned up at office today......:)

They came with chocolates......and the purpose of their visit was to surprise me......and wish me for passing exams and completing it coz they sort of know the shit I was going through......and well, they’re what I can proudly say ‘true friends’.

It truly made my day......and also, they had planned on getting me some weird ass flower, which I had never heard of before......and they hadn’t been able to find it.. and one of the friends had started to stress about it..lol......I told them it was the thought that counted and not anything material......:)

So yea......start was the day was good...... End was nice too.. coz I was stressed with some work......and somehow managed everything until we had a power cut for some wiring repairs......And that was an indication that it was late and I was to go home......

Just got off the phone with Dee......oh boy, I’ll be graduating with my lovely hunny bubbles..:) I’m so excited!!!!!! :) eventhough I’ve graduated once before, I’m still looking forward to this one......to that feeling of having achieved something great through a lot of hard work and passion......:) looking forward to that award that will make a difference in me and my life......to that day where I can proudly stand ...... and shine......yet again:)

In the midst of this, I feel so hollow...... and empty...... so incomplete...... and time’s going......one day at a time......The clock ticks…. and I still don’t feel right......:S

Juice day

My yoga instructor is very fond of me..:) He also finds it amusing at times when I told him that I don't perfectly understand some of the words he uses in class when errr... instructing... coz the class is conducted in Sinhala. So he always makes sure I do things right and if not, he comes to me and explains in simpler Sinhala or in English.. Trust me, I've learnt quite a few words now..:D and I'm sooo proud of it!

Anyways, he told me once that ideally when doing yoga, one must go on a juice diet atleast once a week as it is good for the body. This is how it happens, one can have fruits it you like... and should ideally stay away from heavy food and have only 6 servings of juice. It should be 3 vegetable juices of your choice and 3 fruit. Since I don't drink veg juice, I thought I'll do fruit.

I did have a little bit of breakfast.. and my mum was being quite paranoid as I work and she thinks I'll get all weak.. oh mothers I tell ya..:) sweet though..

When I woke up this morning, she had made three 500ml bottles of fruit juice which were apple, mandarin and yummy watermelon..:) I left the apple for the night and brought the other two. felt funny bringing so many bottles along with my big ass water bottle..lol.

Sooooooooo... I've finished my juice now... and well, funnily I feel hungry today! Perhaps I'll have milk after I get home... and it feels nice actually....:) and light..:) What I can't stand is the constant need to run to the loo! that's what happens with too many liquids..:S

I think I shouldn't be eating today anyway.. as I was celebrating y-day with an entire portion of HBC (hot butter cuttlefish) and this yummy biscuit pudding that I made.... which my bro and I just loved and finished!!:)

So yea, I'll go light today.... I shall survive...:)